I think that both men and women need to take more responsibility for themselves and each other. Women should set higher standards for themselves and men should respect women more. Now I'm not perfect, so I understand the temptation that presents itself if you're around girls who will let you do what you want with them, but as men, being created first by God, I think we have an obligation to show restraint in indulging in our lusts and to treat women with honor, respect, and care for them in spite of what they may allow us to do. I say this because I once heard a sermon where the preacher said Eve bit the apple first, but it wasn't sin until Adam did it. On the flip side, women need to figure out how to use, not misuse their power (Y'all know what the power is ladies ;) in a healthier way. I don't think "hooking up" produces any long term benefits, because it's a respect thing. "Yeah I'll hook up with you and as long as you givin, I'm takin", but is a true respect ever produced going that route? That's one way of viewing it.
The internet age that we live in has made these kinds of interactions easier to engage in. First of all, everyone seems to be "plugged in" to some electronic device 24/7, whether it be cell phones, computers, iPods, etc. Also, social networking has seemingly become more important than human to human interaction. In perpetuity, relationship skills won't be developed and the easier option of just hooking up with your "friend with benefits" becomes the norm.
We need relationships as human beings. Healthy relationships. Relationships where sex is used to strengthen the bond between the two individuals, not as a bargaining tool to become boyfriend and girlfriend. Again, I'm not judging if you hookup or not, I just feel that with the divorce rate in this country as high as it is and the amount of single women that there are (especially in the black community) authentic relationships need to be developed for the good of the community.
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